Talk to me about poop
OK I need opinions/advice.
C is having a poop problem. Like...he arrived on the 1st, and it is now the 4th, and today was the first time he actually pooped. It really was barely poop. He had three or so dirty diapers today, but two of them were just kind of like dirty streaks in his diaper, not anything solid or anything. He seemed like he was having a tough time pooping and at one point he started to cry and I'm pretty sure it was because of his poop, though honestly it could've been because of anything because let's face it, the kid cries at least 10-15 times a day (like throwing himself on the floor temper tantrum style crying). So...thoughts? Just try to get him to eat more fresh veggies for a fiber deficiency? Or something else? He doesn't have any known food allergies. I read that a lot of dairy can constipate kids, but really he only eats milk with his breakfast and then maybe some string cheese during the day. He drinks a decent amount of water I think, but this is my first time doing this so who knows, really!
Another thing I was thinking is that he may not have been eating much before he came. When Y first got here he only had 1 dirty diaper a day, and it had like 3 or 4 little tiny droppings in it...kind of like little rabbit pellets or something. Now that he has gained 2 pounds and eats like it's going out of style, he normally has 2-3 full diapers a day. So I'm not sure if C's issue is the same thing, like maybe he was just not getting enough to eat and he will start pooping more now that he is eating more or what. He only weighs 26 pounds. He can still wear size 3 diapers (the same size as Y) and wears 18 month tops and bottoms, but is probably taller than average I would say. He is a skinny boy.
We started a new rule with C. If he is going to throw a fit for no reason (this can be things like having to wait 5 minutes for dinner, me taking his cup from him when he is just playing with it and not drinking, me walking out of the room, telling him we are going to change his diaper, putting shoes on or taking shoes off, etc.) then he can not be in the room with us, period. So once he starts throwing a fit I get down on the ground and make sure he is looking at me and just tell him that if he is going to continue crying he has to go to his room, but if he wants to stop crying he can stay out here with us. Also if he is on my lap and starts having a fit I tell him that I can not hold him when he is being like that. So far it has worked REALLY well. 90% of the time he immediately stops crying. I'm not sure how well this will work in public, but I'm hoping that if we can break him of this at home then it will carry over to public as well. At home we just let him cry it out but it's difficult in public.
The boys and I went to Village Inn with my mom, sister, and my mom's best friend, and C threw a fit because he didn't want to sit in his chair. And he threw a fit because I wouldn't let him drink out of my cup (I had brought him a sippy cup and offered him that but noooooo). And he threw a little cup of cheerios I had brought for the boys to snack on. So anyway, I ended up holding him which felt like giving in but I didn't feel right letting the kid scream it out in public while people are trying to enjoy their breakfast! I'm sure people thought I was a horrible parent with a terrible child. And maybe I am! Ha! :)
We went to my parents' house this weekend, and it was really nice to get to see everyone. And I'm not gonna lie, it was nice to have more adult hands to help with the kids so I got a little bit of a break. :) Even though half the time the two little boys insisted on sitting on my lap or in the chair right beside me. I'm so popular. :) D asked if we could spend the night there and also said that he liked going to his foster grandma's house.:) My mom bought him a nerf gun to keep at her house so he will have something to play with when he goes over there. He was pretty excited about it.
Anyway the big boys are attempting to start a fire in our fire pit and are requesting my presence in the back yard. TTYL!
C is having a poop problem. Like...he arrived on the 1st, and it is now the 4th, and today was the first time he actually pooped. It really was barely poop. He had three or so dirty diapers today, but two of them were just kind of like dirty streaks in his diaper, not anything solid or anything. He seemed like he was having a tough time pooping and at one point he started to cry and I'm pretty sure it was because of his poop, though honestly it could've been because of anything because let's face it, the kid cries at least 10-15 times a day (like throwing himself on the floor temper tantrum style crying). So...thoughts? Just try to get him to eat more fresh veggies for a fiber deficiency? Or something else? He doesn't have any known food allergies. I read that a lot of dairy can constipate kids, but really he only eats milk with his breakfast and then maybe some string cheese during the day. He drinks a decent amount of water I think, but this is my first time doing this so who knows, really!
Another thing I was thinking is that he may not have been eating much before he came. When Y first got here he only had 1 dirty diaper a day, and it had like 3 or 4 little tiny droppings in it...kind of like little rabbit pellets or something. Now that he has gained 2 pounds and eats like it's going out of style, he normally has 2-3 full diapers a day. So I'm not sure if C's issue is the same thing, like maybe he was just not getting enough to eat and he will start pooping more now that he is eating more or what. He only weighs 26 pounds. He can still wear size 3 diapers (the same size as Y) and wears 18 month tops and bottoms, but is probably taller than average I would say. He is a skinny boy.
We started a new rule with C. If he is going to throw a fit for no reason (this can be things like having to wait 5 minutes for dinner, me taking his cup from him when he is just playing with it and not drinking, me walking out of the room, telling him we are going to change his diaper, putting shoes on or taking shoes off, etc.) then he can not be in the room with us, period. So once he starts throwing a fit I get down on the ground and make sure he is looking at me and just tell him that if he is going to continue crying he has to go to his room, but if he wants to stop crying he can stay out here with us. Also if he is on my lap and starts having a fit I tell him that I can not hold him when he is being like that. So far it has worked REALLY well. 90% of the time he immediately stops crying. I'm not sure how well this will work in public, but I'm hoping that if we can break him of this at home then it will carry over to public as well. At home we just let him cry it out but it's difficult in public.
The boys and I went to Village Inn with my mom, sister, and my mom's best friend, and C threw a fit because he didn't want to sit in his chair. And he threw a fit because I wouldn't let him drink out of my cup (I had brought him a sippy cup and offered him that but noooooo). And he threw a little cup of cheerios I had brought for the boys to snack on. So anyway, I ended up holding him which felt like giving in but I didn't feel right letting the kid scream it out in public while people are trying to enjoy their breakfast! I'm sure people thought I was a horrible parent with a terrible child. And maybe I am! Ha! :)
We went to my parents' house this weekend, and it was really nice to get to see everyone. And I'm not gonna lie, it was nice to have more adult hands to help with the kids so I got a little bit of a break. :) Even though half the time the two little boys insisted on sitting on my lap or in the chair right beside me. I'm so popular. :) D asked if we could spend the night there and also said that he liked going to his foster grandma's house.:) My mom bought him a nerf gun to keep at her house so he will have something to play with when he goes over there. He was pretty excited about it.
Anyway the big boys are attempting to start a fire in our fire pit and are requesting my presence in the back yard. TTYL!
Teague's godparents have a 2 1/2 year old who can be whiny and cranky. Their cue phrase when he is throwing a fit is "Are you being happy, Andrew?" This usually results is more crying because he knows what's coming. Then it's "Go to your room until you're happy." He had some toys in his room and would usually play a little and then return in a minute or two with whatever was wrong, totally forgotten! I even had to enforce it a couple times and it worked like a charm!
ReplyDeleteMaybe in public, (I haven't figured this out yet either...) you could try going to the car until he's "happy." I do think you're right though. If you follow through on a specific phrase at home, the phrase should work in public. Something like "Are you being happy?" with a *look*. LOL...
Brynn - I think you guys are doing an amazing job with those boys. We really enjoyed having them at our place this weekend.
ReplyDeleteWhen you kids had the pooping problem the doctor said to feed you more canned fruit - evidently it has something that will help them poop :)
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