Baby boy! Boys run in my husband's family...his mom has three sons, his two brothers have two sons each. Not a girl to be found! So I shouldn't be surprised. So looks like it will be just Miss M and I with 5 males in the house!
It's been a year since I last wrote. So much has happened! Way too much to put here, but suffice to say it has been crazy. Our oldest has headed off to boot camp for the Marines, he'll be in the reserves. The other kids are 9, 7, 6, 4, 2.
Maybe I'll have time to catch up on stuff later, though I'm feeling a little weird about posting too much online. It's scary out there in the internets!
I'm writing because our journey in Foster Care Land might not be over, like we sort of thought that it was! Let me explain.
In January 2016 hubby's brother and brother's girlfriend had their son taken into foster care. They didn't tell anyone, and their son was with a foster parent (a stranger, no one in the family) for 3 months until hubby's mom found out. She contacted the state and was able to be the foster parent for the little boy. Brother and his girlfriend got straightened out, and got him back about 9 months later.
Well. Y "finished" therapy, but we can go back if we need to. I feel like things are going so much better overall with him. The therapist said she felt like he and I had a good bond, and so we mostly just worked on strategies for making good choices and some things like that.
Miss M was next on the list. Some things with her have been concerning. One thing, which I've not mentioned before, is that even when she was a baby I felt...like she didn't like me that much. I know, it's weird. How can a baby show preferences? I just felt like she didn't care to be with me. There's just this weird feeling, a lot of times and even now that's she's 7, like she's looking through a veil and doesn't see other people as human beings...or something. I can't even put my finger on it.
It is, basically, attachment disorder. :( It's terribly sad. She was taken into foster care as soon as she was born, but the thing is - she was with me (I did daycar…
Well, I got a call on Friday that C & Y are definitely going to go live with their aunt. Which means, obviously, that they are not going to be living with us. :(
So now we are looking at getting the 1 year old and the 11 year old, and maybe the 2 year old sibling as well. I know the 1 and 11 year olds are boys, not sure if the 2 year old is a boy or a girl. I'm thinking it might be kind of nice to have a little girl...then I remember some of the girls we've done respite for and they were WAY worse than the boys. So maybe not. :)
The plan right now is that we are going to start doing some respite for the 2 boys, then if all goes well they will be moving in soon I think. Their current foster mom has a daughter getting married this summer and is also expecting her first grandchild, and is thinking she just won't have time to do the foster care thing. So that's why these kids would be coming to stay with us.
I'm a little concerned about having a 1 year old. I hav…