Difficult

Yeah, that's how the past few days have been. C's potty training is...not. This morning he didn't want to get on the potty and he peed on the floor whilst having a tantrum. Lovely. Then I put him in a diaper. Then after breakfast he said he needed to potty, so I took him, and he didn't go. He sat for quite a while and said he was done. But I thought, well, at least he told me, right? So I figured I would let him wear his underwear. So he picked some out, and we put them on...and literally 10 minutes later he said "I pee pee on floor!" and, sure enough, he had peed through his undies and his pants and it was getting on the floor. Obviously those items of clothing are not made to absorb vast quantities of urine so it's to be expected that it will get on the floor.

So anyway, at this point I'm not sure what to do. He is going to respite this weekend and I don't want them to have to work on this with him. So maybe we'll try some more on Monday. But I just don't know, at this point, if he is really ready or not. I've been reading lots of things about kids not getting potty trained until they are 3 or 4. So maybe he is just not ready, though I'm sure his mom will not be happy but I just don't need this stress in my life right now. I'd much rather just change a diaper, and if I have to fight with him to get on the potty then I guess he's just not ready.

Y has turned into a little monster overnight. I mean that in the most loving and kind way, because I DO truly love him! But oh man...he is screaming his brains out when he doesn't get what he wants, and I'm talking sometimes for several minutes. It used to be that he would cry for 30 seconds and then move on with his life. No, not anymore! He throws himself on the ground in full-on toddler style tantrums. He screams about the food I give him. He will eat bananas and any grain product right now. That's pretty much it. Oh, and dairy products. Anything else he may or may not take a bite of, and then he will scream and possibly throw it off of his tray. He will scream if he is not on the same side of the baby gate as me. Like, even if I just hop over to put laundry away, he starts screaming. He cries at bed time and nap time, which I'm sure is because he is still missing his paci. He cries way more than C does now. He cried when my husband left for work today, which is the first time he's done that. Oh man, it is stressful. We need to get out of the house a little bit I think, we haven't gone anywhere all week. But the boys are going to respite for the weekend and I am SO excited. I really need a break.

And the baby today has even been difficult! She smiled at me though, so I guess that makes up for it. :)

YAY for the weekend. We're going out to a movie tonight which we normally only do every couple of months. And we're going to a Huskers game tomorrow as well as out to eat for Brian's birthday.

And Y is screaming in his crib right now. In case you were wondering. *sigh*

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  1. If it's any consolation (and I doubt that it is) I have had one heck of a difficult time with Levi this week. I feel like *all of the sudden* everything is a battle EVERY one of the little tricks I thought he'd learned not to do is BACK in full force (fooling with the VCR, throwing food off the high chair, tipping the humidifier over...) Some times it makes me want to SCREAM! and some times I do.

    I think I've just got to face the reality that Levi is turning into a toddler, and it is his job to test his boundaries. The problem is, it is MY job to respond to his "testing" and quite honestly I don't know how to respond sometimes! Do I ignore the behavior, or do I punish it? Or would punishing it really just be rewarding him with my attention. Argh!

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  2. It must be the week, because I've had an awful time with Sam this week too- felt like a miserable failure- and you have two right now- you are doing an amazing job! I'm obsessed with your blog right now and am truly inspired.

    If I may give a word of advice- once kids hit 2 years old, I've read it's really hard to potty train. Since their situation is so unstable right now (with visits and uncertain future) you might just save yourself the headache and stick with diapers. Don't worry, I've yet to meet a high school kid who isn't potty trained!

    If you're really set on potty training someone- you might try Y! he's at the perfect age to do so. At least, that's what I've read ;)
    http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/blogs/sfmoms/category?cat=1593

    we're planning on training Sam after the holidays. that might be something else to consider!

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  3. Melissa - I can totally feel your pain about the screaming thing. Ugh. If Levi is over his ickies next week you guys should come over for a play date. Then at least we will be closer to out numbering them!

    Kim - I could totally relate to your blog from yesterday. Because sometimes, these kids make me cry too. More often than I'd like to admit.

    That link is awesome. AWESOME. I especially like the part that said "Should you offer bribes? No! You provide your child with shelter, food, clothing, unconditional love--the least he can do for you is go pee in the pot." That is priceless! Definitely something to think about. And maybe if C sees his little brother going on the potty then he will be more likely to do so also, not wanting to be one-upped! And it's a great idea to have more than one potty. I never would have even thought of that.

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  4. yea! So glad it was helpful! Keep me updated on how it goes! We'll be doing that in Jan, like I said :)

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