Plea for help
Welp, I sent an email to all the important people on the case today asking for HELP WITH D. I am at my wit's end. D has been treating me like total poop and I am seriously considering disrupting the placement, for him only (if that is even possible). Trust me, I NEVER thought I would say that. But every time my husband is not around, D just wants to be a huge jerk. It's a bad example for the little boys, and honestly I dread the times when I have to be alone with D. Normally he can go a few hours at a time being nice to me, but he hasn't made it a whole day in...I don't know. A long time. I'm not even talking about being NICE, just simply not being disrespectful. He actually told me that he knows he treats me bad when my husband is not around, he just "doesn't know why".
I feel this could be addressed in therapy; however his therapist is ineffective at best and possibly incompetent. I don't hear from him at ALL, and I know mostly what they do is play games and stuff. His therapist apparently asked him earlier this week if he had been taking his meds...only D doesn't TAKE any meds. Funny right? I feel like for this to be addressed in therapy the therapist should at least talk to me on a regular basis, maybe even include me or us in therapy all together! Novel idea, I know. But because of what happened in his home prior to foster care, plus who knows what else, maybe he is scarred for life! I just feel like no on cares about this but I really think it is a big deal! If it is an issue he has with women, this could be really bad later in his life. He is always going to have women authority figures - possibly in jobs, at school, etc.
Oh and also they are adding an additional visit for the little kids during the week with their mom. So they will have 4 visits a week now. I think it will be good as long as they don't disrupt their nap times like they always like to try to do!
In other news, C was reading The Hungry Caterpillar to himself, and it went something like this:
"I'm reading the Bible. Then God made the sun come up, and the caterpillar was hungry, and he ate a lot of food, and then he turned into the ra-ca-coon!"